At different points in our lives, we struggle with the feeling that our life has lost its sense of purpose or direction. This experience of aimlessness may lead to feelings of depression, anxiety or confusion.
Sometimes this lack of meaning arises after a sudden change in our circumstances such as the loss of a job, the end of a relationship, or a bereavement. At other times, we may feel that over time our lives have drifted further and further away from what we’d hoped for ourselves.
At times like these, speaking with an existential psychotherapist can help.
Fergus is a London-based psychotherapist offering both individual and relationship therapy, online and in person. Their goal is to create a safe and supportive environment in which to explore the challenges you’re facing. Fergus has a passion for helping people uncover what gives their lives meaning.
Fergus initially trained in Integrative Psychotherapy at the Minster Centre where they learned to work in a number of ways including using Psychodynamic, Somatic and Humanistic approaches. Fergus continued their post-graduate training in Existential Psychotherapy at The New School of Psychotherapy and Counselling. Fergus draws upon all of these schools of thought to create bespoke approaches for each and every client they work with, ensuring that it is suited to your goals for therapy and your views of the world.
Fergus also holds a BA in Gender & Sexuality Studies and an MA in Gender, Sexuality & Culture. Prior to their career as a therapist Fergus worked in the arts and culture sector, specialising in supporting artists from marginalised communities make ambitious new work. They are an award-winning artist working across theatre, television, prose, poetry and mobile games.
For those who are new to it, therapy can seem like a daunting process. Much of what we think we know about therapy comes from films and television. You may be wondering if we’ll spend much of our time talking about your childhood, or whether I’ll be able to solve your problems. The reality is that therapy is a collaborative process. We’ll meet on a regular basis (usually weekly) for 50 minutes. Through our work together, you’ll have the opportunity to reflect more deeply on your life – your relationships, your hopes and ambitions, and your dilemmas and challenges.
People often turn to therapy because they are suffering, or they want to make sense of their lives and the challenges they’re facing. Therapy is an opportunity to unburden yourself and explore your thoughts and feelings with a someone who is present and compassionate, but at a distance from your life. I am not a friend or a family member. From this critical distance, I can offer thoughts and observations about patterns of behaviour or faulty beliefs which may be difficult for you to see.
Above all, therapy is an opportunity to develop the skills we need to lead a rich and meaningful life: the ability to self-reflect, to be compassionate to ourselves and others, to act with authenticity, and to find beauty and joy in our life as it is now in this moment.
Some of the issues I work with include:
- Issues related to class and class identity
- Issues related to race and / or cultural identities
- Issues related to sexual and / or gender identity (including LGBT, non binary, asexual and queer identities)
- Personal development
- Relationships and sexuality (including BDSM, ethical non-monogamy, polyamory and swingers)
- Religion and spirituality
- Work related issues, retirement and redundancy
As a therapist I acknowledge both systemic and overt forms of oppression that people experience when moving through the world, and so I strive to be aware of (and challenge) how those systems might be replicated in the therapy room. I have a particular focus in working with clients whose identities may be informed by experiences of otherness including:
- LGBT, queer, and non-binary people
- People practicing polyamory or other forms of relationship diversity
- Working class people
- People of colour
These identities may or may not present issues that we look at in our work together, but working with a therapist who is sensitive to and knowledgeable about these identities can help you feel safer about being your fullest authentic self in the therapy room.
I offer sessions on a sliding scale based on your own financial and / or life circumstances. Each type of therapy is offered at three different suggested price points:
|Full Price||Reduced Price||Low Cost|
|Relationship Therapy (price per person)||£50||£40||£20*|
|Group Therapy (price per person)||£50||£40||£20|
Is this for you?
- I can comfortably meet my basic needs
- I own my own home or property, or rent a higher end property
- I am employed and/or do not need to work to meet my basic needs
- I have access to financial savings
- I have available disposable income
- I can easily afford to buy new things and participate in leisure activities
- I can easily afford holidays and to take time off when I need to
Is this for you?
- I may stress about meeting my basic needs but still regularly meet them
- My rent or mortgage takes up a noticeable chunk of my income but I do still have enough left over to do some nice things
- I may have debts but it doesn’t prohibit me from meeting my basic needs
- I am employed
- I have some disposable income
- I can buy new things and participate in leisure activities but I have to budget to do so
- I can take holidays but it is not always affordable
Is this for you?
- I stress about meeting my basic needs and don’t always meet them
- I rent lower end properties, am in social housing or have unstable housing
- I have debts which can stop me from affording my basic needs
- I am unemployed or low waged
- I have no access to savings
- I rarely buy new things because I can’t afford to
- I cannot take a holiday or time off without financial burden
If you feel that your circumstances fall somewhere between these descriptions, please let me know as we may be able to agree a rate which is suitable for your unique circumstances.
* Please note that I am only able to see a limited number of clients at a low-cost rate, and there may be a waiting list to access therapy at this rate. If there is a waiting list, I am also happy to signpost you to other therapists and organisations that offer low cost therapy who may be able to see you sooner.
Existential Psychotherapy is deeply rooted in philosophy, primarily Existentialism, a school of thought which is concerned with what it means to be human. It emphasises the role we play in shaping our lives through the choices we make, our ability to create own meaning, and the importance of our relationships with others. Existentialism calls upon us to deeply understand our core beliefs and values and live authentically. Existentialists believe feelings of despair and anxiety arise when we refuse to accept how our lives are not in line with our core values, and suggests that by realigning ourselves with those values we can live full, rich, meaningful lives. As an Existential Psychotherapist, I’ll support you to discover and better understand your own personal core beliefs and to live more authentically. I’ll help you to consider the interplay between the choices you make and things which are outside of your control, which can lead to greater satisfaction in life.